Chances are, if you are human, anger has made a fool of you at least once. Anger is a secondary emotion in response to the basic need to protect yourself or those you love. It pops out when you are feeling shame, fear, pain, disgust, disdain, or disagreement. When anger erupts, it is accompanied by a release of stress hormones, adrenaline and noradrenalin...AKA an anger cocktail. This anger cocktail is part of our natural defense system, which helps all animals survive in dangerous situations. It tells us to fight or to run. It is a knee-jerk, superfast reaction, and requires great self-control for a person to stop, and to think, before they react. Unfortunately, this anger cocktail also creates neural pathways throughout the brain, a “neural memory” kind of like a muscle memory. The more you use it the faster and stronger the anger response.
Action Step: Start paying attention to your anger. Either you are in control of anger, or anger is in control of you. If anger is getting the better of you, what problems is it causing in your life today? If anger is getting the better of you, what are you going to do to get your control back?